Dating dictionary

The modern dating glossary

Modern dating invents a new word every season, usually for a very old feeling. Here's what the terms actually mean — defined calmly, without judgment, and with a practical answer to the only question that matters: what do I do about it?

Breadcrumbing

Breadcrumbing is when someone gives you just enough attention to keep you interested — a flirty text, a story reply, a "we should hang out soon" — without ever following through on real plans or commitment. The contact is genuine enough to feel like something; the momentum never arrives.

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Orbiting

Orbiting is when someone who has pulled away from you — stopped replying, ended things, or outright ghosted — keeps circling your online life: watching every story, liking the occasional post, staying quietly present in your notifications without ever actually speaking to you.

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Beige flags

A beige flag is a trait that's neither a red flag nor a green one — a mildly odd, oddly specific, or endearingly boring habit that tells you something about a person without telling you whether to worry. Alphabetized spice racks, ketchup on everything, quoting the same show daily: beige.

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Situationship

A relationship in everything but the agreement that it is one. The signs, and how to get clarity.

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Love bombing

Overwhelming affection as acceleration. How to tell intensity from manipulation, early.

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More terms are on the way. For the longer guides behind them, browse the full knowledge library.

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